Talking with Your Child with Special Needs About Tragic Events

All of us are still reeling about the news of Kobe Bryant’s death. As someone who was so influential in the public eye as a role model and hero for so many kids as well as adults, it strikes extra hard to our hearts. When a catastrophic event like this happens, children may be troubled by what they see or hear about the tragedy. They may react with emotions such as fear, worry, shock and grief. And if you have a child with special needs, he may respond in ways that are difficult to handle. And while we may not be able to shield our children from tragic events, there are plenty of ways to help them through.

Talk with Your Child about Tragic Events

The best response is to talk with your child with a disability to help her understand what happened. It will also help her feel safe.

Take time to think about what you want to say. Ask your child what she understands about the tragic event. Find out what questions or concerns she may have. Your child’s answers should help to direct what to say.

Bottom line, here are some tips to help you through:

• Try to stay calm. Your child will look to you on how to react to the tragic event. It’s okay for your child to see you sad or crying. However, if you have an extreme emotional response, consider leaving the room until you can calm down.
• Get down to your child's eye level. Speak in a calm, gentle voice. Use words she will understand.
• Listen closely to your child for inaccurate information, along with any fears or feelings that are in relation to the incorrect data. Validate his feelings, but let him know the correct information.
• Be honest, but focus on basic information. Don’t give out unnecessary details that may upset him.
• Limit your child’s news and social media viewing. If you have a young child, don’t allow him to see recurring coverage of a tragic event. That will increase his level of worry.
• Spend time together and keep your routine normal. Stay loyal to your regular dinner, bedtime, and homework schedule.
• Make sure your child knows it’s okay to be upset or to cry. Let him write about or draw what he is feeling.
• Think about ways you and your child can help the victims of the tragic event. For example, your child could write a letter to the family telling them how Kobe was an inspiration.

If you feel overwhelmed and you need help, please contact us.

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